Cherish The Impromptu Moments

Today my almost three year old, Sam, fell asleep on me. Something he hasn’t done in a long time. Those minutes snuggling him took me back to when he was so little; when he was a baby baby (not a toddler baby)….to those exhausting days of feed, cuddle, sleep; and repeat.

Sitting on the sofa, holding him, thoughts popped in my head. I heard myself saying…”but the washing needs folding”, “you still need to empty the dishwasher”, “five minutes and then I’ll put him in his bed”. Then I said to myself…NO! You HAVE to enjoy these impromptu moments. Cherish each and every one. The washing will wait but he is getting so big!

This time next year he will have been allocated his Primary school and starting school the following September!

Now I’m getting ready to fold the laundry, iron, pick up my eldest from school and then get him ready for swimming, homework and then dinner.

I love my hectic life and my two rambunctious boys but I do go from one thing to the next constantly! I think that’s why having those moments today with my youngest was so nice and a reminder to slow down and enjoy this time. It will be gone all too quickly. Motherhood – the mundane and amazing can happen in the same moment.

What Does Being An โ€œInstaMumโ€ Even Mean?

I have heard this term since I started my Instagram account way back in 2017! I had a private account for years before that…barely used it and had no idea what a hashtag was! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ Fast forward to 2017 and a signed up as a MLM distributor for a makeup line…I know! What was I thinking!? ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ I realised Instagram would be good for it so I created a public account and called myself Lots of Lippy! ๐Ÿ’„ If you go back far enough in my account you will see me modelling the lippy! ๐Ÿคฃ

I learned ALOT about Instagram from my Lippy account and enjoyed connecting with other accounts and people. I stopped selling in the Spring of 2018 and just posted things that my family and I were up to and my everyday musings and people seemed to like this and I enjoyed making friends with mums, parents and people who got me and what I was about. So I changed my account name to Stephie Stories and the rest is history!

I’m still navigating the Instagram Seas and I don’t want to piss anyone off but sometimes I do feel like the community can be a bit hard to crack! I see loads of cool women and mums all bonding with each other over shared interests, being invited to the “in” parties and being called out on Follow Fridays.

I’m happy to say that I have made some amazing InstaFriends who I wouldn’t have met if it wasn’t for my account and I do truly think of them as friends. When I started my Instagram account not many of my “real life” friends were on it and that’s pretty much still the case. And if they are on Insta they aren’t very active. It’s been hard trying to find my InstaTribe but I think I am slowly building a group that not only comprises of Mums, but health bloggers, fashion bloggers and writers (Mum are not one dimensional and neither is my account). ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป

Speaking of the Instagram events…I have yet to be invited or go to one. I would LOVE to meet up with some of my other Instagram friends that I follow and chat with so maybe I need to bite the bullet and organise one myself! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป I adore meeting people and hearing their stories as everyone’s stories is different and oh so interesting!

If I organise an event, will you all come?! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Instagram has allowed me to connect with some amazing accounts. Discover some amazing people and find people with similar interests. This platform has inspired me creatively when I desperately needed it. I craved the Arts! I craved performing again, creating etc and Instagram and YouTube have given me an outlet for all of this and more. To “meet” likeminded people and be inspired again.

People say Social Media isn’t good and should be limited. I disagree to an extent! There should be balance in your life between the online and the every day life. I do t like my boys to see me on my phone much when they are about so I limit my phone time to before they wake, nap times and evenings mostly.

But through Instagram, Facebook and YouTube I have reconnected with long lost friends, become creative again and got my Stephie MoJo back that I had lost along the way after giving birth. It’s let me connect with like-minded mums and dads and build a community of friends all over the World and all from my SmartPhone! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป God I love the 21st Century! ๐Ÿ˜Š Although, there is something comforting about a rotary phone, the 80s and a simpler time! I guess when I fall out of love with all of this is the time to stop and I’m definitely not there yet!

I guess, to answer my question above, being an InstaMum is sharing all the good, bad and funny parts of being a Mother with a community of people. A support network, when some days can feel isolating I always know there is another Mother or Father out there whose feed I can go to and gain comfort in the fact I’m not alone. I love our little community! โค๏ธ

Yes! I Talk About My Babies!

Hello there! I’m Steph and YES! I am a mother who talks about her children.

I totally get it! You (sometimes) don’t want to hear about my kids. I didn’t used to get all goo goo gaa gaa about babies – I used to have a busy social life, hair always nice…..I used to be able to wear high heels and not have snot on the majority of my tops! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

But things happen….and my hubs and I decided to start a family! Shock…horror!

I vividly remember telling one of my best friends, shortly after we announced we were preggo, that if I EVER talked only about my baby and what my baby was doing…to kindly slap some sense into me!

We used to roll our eyes at the loud babies at the local coffee shop and I just couldn’t get over how many pics of the their baby some of my friends would post on Facebook. I just couldn’t understand how a woman with a life before her baby would cease to exist after giving birth and have nothing else to talk about.

I vowed this would not be me, so when I got pregnant I talked about my maternity leave as if I was on a year sabbatical from work. I talk about learning a new language while my baby napped (I seriously did! ๐Ÿ™ˆ) and I talked about all the fun outings I would have with my little bundle of joy…all while keeping my social life and meeting friends out for lunch as the baby would just tag along, right?!….ahhhhhhb how naive was I!!

Once I had my little man I was besotted. I just kept looking at him and couldn’t believe that we made this tiny, perfect human! I didn’t go out much because my delivery was a bit more intense that I thought it would be so I had a while to recover and my little man had bad reflux so that meant lunches out were also put on hold for a while but BOY I was proud of what I did and what I made and what he was accomplishing on a daily basis and I wanted my friends to know about it. So I posted about it and talked about it and then… I got it! I got why parents became “boring”, why they talked about their little baby, why they wanted to share with friends and family about their little bundle of joy. Because they were PROUD! Because they were EXCITED! Because they just really wanted to connect with other people who just got it as well.

I got it in the end and even though I might not talk about my dudes ALL the time! I’m not going to stop talking about them because you might think I’m boring. They are my greatest accomplishment and, just as someone else might talk about that new job, that new holiday, a challenge they have just accomplished or anything they are really proud of. I’m DEFINITELY going to talk about mine!

Summer At The Little Beach Street Bakery by Jenny Colgan

I FINALLY finished a BOOK! It took me leaving my family for 4 days but I got it done! ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป Here’s what I thought……

The Synopsis:

Summer has arrived in the Cornish town of Mount Polbearne and Polly Waterford couldn’t be happier. Because Polly is in love: she’s in love with the beautiful seaside town she calls home, she’s in love with running the bakery on Beach Street, and she’s in love with her boyfriend, Huckle. 

And yet there’s something unsettling about the gentle summer breeze that’s floating through town. Selina, recently widowed, hopes that moving to Mount Polbearne will ease her grief, but Polly has a secret that could destroy her friend’s fragile recovery. Responsibilities that Huckle thought he’d left behind are back and Polly finds it hard to cope with his increasingly long periods of absence. 

Polly sifts flour, kneads dough and bakes bread, but nothing can calm the storm she knows is coming: is Polly about to lose everything she loves?

My Thoughts:

As some of you know, my husband is from Cornwall and his parents still live there. It holds a special place in our hearts and I always love to read books set in the county.

This book is the sequel to Little Beach Street Bakery and, even though I haven’t had a chance to read it…YET, I didn’t need to in order to love this book, the lead character Polly and want to visit this little bakery!

The author, Jenny, has created such a likeable character in Polly that the reader automatically roots for her success and commiserates in her disappointments. Plus she lives in an actual lighthouse! She is already cool, in my book! Even the little puffin, Neil, becomes a loved character and I did miss reading about him in the chapters that did not feature him.

Summer at the Little Beach Street Bakery is a sweet, heart-warming and makes you want to move to Cornwall! It’s a definite read for this windy and rainy March!

Questions You Donโ€™t Need To Ask Your Friends….But Do!

Last week I went on my first girlsโ€™ holiday since having my boys. We descended upon poor, unsuspecting Tenerife like four women released from prison and needing to experience freedom again!

We went out in the evenings and I forgot how relaxing it was to eat a meal without constantly checking the boys havenโ€™t thrown their food everywhere or keeping them entertained. I still, however, managed to ask my friends if they needed to do a wee-wee before we left the house! You can take the mum away from the toddler but I think itโ€™s now an automatically programmed question! Awkward!

Your Preggo Body Remembers!

Exactly two years apart. Same dress and almost the same size bump! Except in 2014 I was a little over 2 months away from giving birth and in 2016 I was FIVE!! ๐Ÿ˜ณ

They are correct when they say your body remembers! I had a sizeable bump by my 12 week scan the 2nd time around! That saying my 2nd baby was almost 2lbs bigger than my first as well! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜

Salmon, Pepper & Courgette Stir Fry

Itโ€™s 2019 and Iโ€™m on another healthy eating kick! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ This time I really do feel that I can make it part of my lifestyle. I am (for the most part) already dairy and gluten free so now just trying to cut back on the booze and make more healthy choices! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป

That being said I was trying to think of different ways to cook the standard meat and veg in my diet and I came up with this recipe for Salmon (one of my favourite fish to eat).

This recipe is a mash up of a few ones I have tried in the past but I hadnโ€™t tried any with salmon in them so thought Iโ€™d give it a go and Iโ€™m very happy with how they turned out! I substituted courgette for onions to make it FODMAP friendly and itโ€™s yum (even if I do say so myself! ๐Ÿ˜‰)

Ingredients

Serves: 4

  • 2 tablespoons coconut oil
  • 2 tablespoons runny honey
  • 1 tablespoon chopped ginger (I use the frozen pre-chopped kind)
  • Pinch of black pepper
  • 2 salmon fillets cut into pieces
  • 2 courgettes cut into pieces
  • 2 red/yellow peppers cut into pieces

Directions:

In a large bowl whisk together the coconut oil, honey, ginger and black pepper. Reserved a small amount of the mixture for the end.

Put the oil mixture in a hot skillet and add the salmon cubes. Cook for 3-4 minutes then add the courgette pieces. Cook for 2-3 minutes and then add your pepper pieces.

Mix all together and cook for 5 min or until the peppers start to soften and the salmon is cooked through. You will see quite a bit of liquid in the pan at this stage. Drain the liquid and then flash fry for 1-2 minutes with the remaining mixture (that you put aside earlier) and serve.